Stuff About Me…

My name is Dwayne!!!

Here is a picture of me (R) with my handsome, sexy, lovable husbear.


First of all, I like the word “STUFF” because stuff is cool.  Not only can one have stuff, one can also stuff stuff with stuff; but enough of that stuff.

I moved to Arkansas on July 13, 2002 from Lufkin, Texas to spend the rest of my life with the man I met on-line and fell in love with.  He’s the love of my life and I’m so grateful for every day that I have with him.  We live in Podunk (officially known as Paragould, Arkansas) with our four, four-legged children.  Life is much slower here in Arkansas, but I’ve grown to love it here and can’t imagine living anywhere else.  That’s not to say I don’t miss Texas, because I do.  My parents would make the 8-9 hour trek up here about twice a year, and they liked it so much that they decided they’d like to live here.  We started building them a house back in March of 2008, and they moved to Arkansas in October of the same year.  It’s really great having them here, although I still don’t get to spend as much time with them as I’d like to due to my job; but hopefully that will change pretty soon.

Anyway, I won’t tell you everything about me all at once…gotta save some for later.  ;^)

I LIKE:  Maroon 5, ColdPlay, ANDERSON COOPER, Chris Daughtry, ANDERSON COOPER, my four dogs, ANDERSON COOPER, my job, ADAM LEVINE, iMacs, iPhones, iPods, bears, ANDERSON COOPER, cookies, ADAM LEVINE, Universal Studios, roller coasters, Mexican food, Mexican men, ANDERSON COOPER, Italian food, Italian men, “Friends”, “The X-Files”, “Ghost Hunters”, “Paranormal State”, “True Blood”, sleeping, cuddling, skiing, architecture, ADAM LEVINE…and all other kinds of S-T-U-F-F-!!!



4 responses to “Stuff About Me…

  1. chris and kevin

    August 13, 2010 at 4:25 AM

    hi this is chris one half of lostbears on bear 411 just wanted to say love the site

  2. arbearguy

    July 2, 2009 at 2:54 PM

    Thank you so much for your comment. I’m glad there are others out there who feel the same way we do about sex in relationships. There are those out there who believe that sex should be confined to only their partner as an act of trust, love, and commitment in their relationship; and if that’s truly the way they feel and have no regrets about it then who am I to condemn them for that? As you simply put it, SEX IS SEX and does not completey define my relationship with my husbear. That’s not to say that I haven’t felt jealous of one of my husbear’s tricks in the past, because I have. However, I wasn’t jealous because I thought my husband was going to fall in love with the guy and leave me; I was jealous in that I knew/felt something wasn’t right with the other person, or that their intentions were other than just a casual sexual encounter.

    We also have ground rules. Neither of us can play without getting permission first, and we must meet, or at least see, the other person. There have been times when we have vetoed each other’s selections; and if either of us say “NO” then that’s that…end of discussion. There is also to be no cuddling with tricks after sex…LOL. I know, that sounds like a silly rule, but it’s one that works for us. I look at it this way: if you’re tricking with someone just for the sex, then why in the heck would you lay around afterwards cuddling, chatting, and getting to know each other? If you want to get to know that person on a personal level and become friends, do it outside the bed. Also, we never bring a trick back to our own personal bedroom because that’s reserved for me and my partner.

    Well, I’ve rambled on. As for you & your partner, I’m sure you’ll both make the right decisions in your relationship. Congrats on finding someone to love; it’s hard to find that nowadays. Good luck to you both!!!

  3. fuenteseric

    July 2, 2009 at 8:06 AM

    Hey Dwayne, kudos to you to be so evolved that you can actually admit to knowing the difference between sex & love. I am a gay man myself who at the moment am trying to succeed in monogamy (at this current time in my relationship with MY husbear) I believe we we not meant to have relations with just ONE person for the rest of one’s life. Nor do I believe that monogamy defines one’s love or commitment to another human being. I know this because I LOVE my man but I desire lots more than just him. I am 100% committed to my relationship & my husbear and don’t believe that tasting the fruits of life (no pun intended) shouldn’t be denied by another or even one self in order to make a statement. Congratulations for having found a method that works for you & your successful relationship. I wish you many years of true happiness with your man & lots of good sex with others 🙂

  4. arbearguy

    June 27, 2009 at 1:42 AM

    I’m not sure who you are, but who are you to judge how much I either love or don’t love my partner simply because he and I choose to occasionally play with others outside of our relationship? This blog is not here for you to condemn or condone anything in my personal life, so maybe you should consider keeping your personal opinions to yourself. No one is making you read this blog, anyway!!!


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